Meeting the Self

I went through a webinar on #career #guidance and came across this beautiful Poem. If you think about it’s depth, this poem speaks so much about everyone’s lives! It’s titled:

MEETING THE SELF!

The time will come
When with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in
your own mirror,
And each will smile at the otherโ€™s welcome,

And say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again
The stranger who has loved you all your life,
Whom you ignored for another,
Who knows you by heart.

Take down the love letters from the bookshelf.
The photographs, the desperate notes,
Peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

– Derek Walkott

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Is getting career guidance worth the expense?

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The whole process of choosing a career path can be overwhelming!

How do you find out what you are good at? What is your personality like? Having such combination, what options should you prefer? What will be the possible challenges you should be prepared for? How do you prepare? And more!!!

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A career guide/mentor is someone who is aware of a variety of career options and of the overall challenges that appear in each. They have the tools and techniques to find out about your personality and then show you the best options.

They also have the connection and source to bring you the information you need to decide. They have the professional training to help in these times with numerous career options.

As someone put it:

There is no right or wrong decision, it is only the choice between the best decision and the not so good one!

We all talk to our family members about the situation and ask for suggestions.

They are not well aware, still we go to them. Why not go to an expert? If you need an advice on your medical condition, would you prefer speaking to a doctor or everyone around. And then would you prefer speaking to an experienced doctor or someone else?

The cost?

You can make a not so good decision! The cost of a ‘not so good’ decision must be measured in not only monetary terms, but also the time and energy you will spend going through the path.

And the impact it will have on your psychological state?

Weigh your options!!!

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The six years integrated B.Tech. degree – a thought!

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Engineering, the most popular graduate courses in India, I recently got to know, has got an additional pathway for interested students. Now, anyone interested in the course doesn’t have to wait till the twelfth, and then go through the grind of the competitive exams. They can instead opt for a six years integrated program immediately after the tenth.

But as I said, it’s just another pathway to the career! You still have the four year route.

For now, these are being offered in select private colleges. As per the Times of India newspaper, the institutes are also calling it as a life-time package deal: “freedom from all competitive exams”.

And, I believe the rush for these courses shows of a future with similar courses being offered by all universities.But do we want it?

Colleges that are offering this degree:

These are among the list of universities offering the integrated engineering course. The six years integrated course would comprise 3 years of Diploma course and another 3 years of degree. Different institutes have different criteria!

But, are we sure the students would have figured out the right career for themselves by class tenth? We are speaking of escaping the grind of competitive exams. What about the grind of excruciating semester exams of a course you are no more interested in? I think the aura of engineering degree just pulls you in… but then you realize!

I wrote about so many other options apart from engineering and medical. And do you think the list is over in the above post? Huhh! ๐Ÿ™‚

Well, I like it that there is this distribution of Diploma and Degree for the course. But will the institutions give a Diploma if one leaves the course midway? If institutes are ready to give Diploma even though a student doesn’t complete all six years, fine! If this is just another option for the students, then it’s okay. The more the better! But if we want a total switch, it should not happen.

In a world that has been changing so fast, how much does this type of course help? In a world where people work for a variety of jobs through their career, what contribution does it make? In a world where gigs are becoming more and more norm, does this type of integrated courses give any edge? Shouldn’t we stop creating such integrated programs?

Merits:

  • Escape the pain of appearing for multiple competitive exams on 12th.
  • One has chosen the course and is totally settled in it.
  • Total focus in one direction will improve expertise in the subject and I believe they might become better engineers.

Demerits

  • During these primary years, students are mostly unaware of the careers and mostly get to know what their parents tell them, and that is engineering or medical.
  • Not sure if everyone getting into the course would have figured it all out.
  • If one wants to change, they might not.
  • Six years of one’s life in the ‘not the best’ path for an individual? It needs to change.
  • Since they have got into the pursuit, they might be okay but miss on better routes for themselves.
  • Financial pressure might be huge for those whose condition is not well off.

As we move towards a gig economy, these types of courses will lose significance and there would be more demand for short skill oriented courses. But I would love to hear your thoughts here.

Any more points? What do you think? Is it good for students?

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Are there options other than Engineering or Medical?

Imagine you go to market to buy a soap and you only get two options: either Soap A or Soap B.

Will it be the best choice?

Will it be the best choice as per your needs, interests, dreams, family values, and other factors? Least chances.

If you don’t want to have only two choices for soap purchase, how good is it for career?

So first, here are a few options to pick from other than engineering or medical line of studies:

  • Designing,
  • Journalism,
  • Social works,
  • Business management,
  • Hotel management,
  • Law,
  • Fitness,
  • Banking and finance,
  • Forensics,
  • Entrepreneurship,
  • Animation and illustration,
  • Filmmaking,
  • Civil services,
  • And many more.

Most of the youngsters walk into their tenth and eleventh taking Mathematics or Biology thinking that they must go for either Mathematics or Biology. Why? Because they MUST pick either Engineering or medical. Why? Because there is no other good option. And then the kids somehow get into ANY institute to pursue either engineering or medical. This leads to, if they at all become, an engineer or doctor who can do nothing but earn a few bucks. And then they do the same with their kids and the cycle continues! Kids’ true potential lies dormant deep down that also at times leads to frustrating relationships.

You have immense potential!

Today internet is such power that brings plethora of information at your fingertips. You cannot anymore say that you didn’t know.

If you can read you must find out!

Pick your phone and Google… That’s it!

And what I said above are just fields of studies that you may choose from. Each of these will have careers multitude of careers that you may pick from. And all of it are options other than Mathematics or Biology – based fields.

These are fields out of which a well-crafted, high earning potential, high reputation careers can shape up.

You just have to look out and strive for it!

Anyways, as they say in management, there is no right or wrong option. It’s only the best out of the available options. So we must never think about making the right choice but only the best one of the available choices.

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The greatest reason for disagreements and fights…

The biggest roadblock in any relationship is believing that ONLY I am right. Hope we all always see that others are also right! So much of anger, hatred will be gone ๐Ÿ™‚ And you will KEEPSMILING

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… and so shouldn’t we stop comparing? But KEEPSMILING :)

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Grief stages to again #keepsmiling?

Like it or not, we all go through unexpected, painful, catastrophic events in our lives. Loss of a loved one, failure at something we are passionate about, accidents of self or a loved one, and many more such events might lead us to ‘grief’. David Kessler, a grief researcher, has said on grief.com that there is “no typical response as there is no typical loss”. However, he, along with Elisabeth Kubbler Ross, interviewed many people and found these given stages to be very common. Identifying one’s own stage can help them to deal with grief. And get back to #keepsmiling

The emotions anyone feels are real and we must understand that we cannot push it under the carpet. We must go ‘through’ it. We must also note that different people can have different timelines for every stage.

Denial is the first stage where everything becomes meaningless and we sometimes want to end it immediately. It is a general defense mechanism where we are not ready to accept what has happened. “How can it happen?”, “This is not happening”, “I can’t believe it.”

Anger is the next stage. As the reality begins to become visible, the pain of this reality also becomes real. This anger might be towards things, people, God, or anything of that sort. It might even be towards the person who passed away or the doctor who diagnosed of the deadly disease.

Bargaining comes next when the grieving person begins to talk with phrase, “If only I would have done…”! This is the person’s attempt at getting back control of the situation. They might even bargain with God for a different outcome in exchange of something they have never done but would now.

Then comes Depression with worries about how things will be done. This is also a natural state and we must allow it to walk up to the person. Here we think about how we did not do enough for the person gone or how are we going to manage the expenses. Sometimes people might also feel some aches and or loss of appetite.

And last is the Acceptance stage where we are finally able to let it settle down. We now understand that ‘what has happened has‘, and there’s not much that can be done about it. But that they must look forward to live the life that awaits. This stage might repeat for a long long time as the person could swing back and forth from here by sometimes feeling angry or sad, and then again being able to accept whatever happened. The sooner we can reach this stage the better it will be!

Everyone goes through these stages and awareness is the first step to deal with any of it so that, no matter what happens, we all can forever #keepsmiling.๐Ÿ˜„

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What matters in life – 3?

Part 1

Part 2

During this phase of lockdown, I am sure we have all realized a few important aspects of our lives that we had never paid attention to. Like, maybe some of our family members and friends, some activities we wanted to but never actually did, some habits we always dreamt of having but had never put these to practice. We also get to know the difference between what we definitely need and other things.

I was specially waiting for a barber shop to open up again. More so, sweepers, nurses, barbers, cooks, and all such workers were the ones we were looking upto! Other such people who have made our lives easier during these times are the police personnel, mental health professionals, social workers, and many others whose jobs were never seen as important.

The difficulties were felt when the above mentioned people were unavailable. Majority of us were not waiting for malls to open or the big fashion styles to come to us. Instead, we just wanted the ultimate necessities to be available.

Isn’t it time we started thinking differently? Or think this too?

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What matters in life – 2?

My previous post began talking about the topic.

We all have different needs at different points of time and we all are motivated to fulfill those needs. Abraham Maslow wrote about those in 50s and has been the most discussed theories in the world of business and psychology…also in philosophy and spirituality. I have also mentioned it in this post in some detail. But if you wish to do further research, this is a good place to begin.

This is all good and important! And I too am there. However, I have realized that while heading towards the bigger things we often miss out on the smaller stuffs… the people around us… the colourful sky… the smiles… the nice smell of flowers… the fun times with our families… and everything that helps to create more smiles and more joyful moments โค๏ธ.

And if it is so, should we be doing all that we are? Can we rethink?

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What matters in life?

I have been curious for more than two decades asking myself, “What is important for a human being?”, “Is happiness important”, “What brings happiness?”, “Can anyone not have everything but still be happy?” Or worse, “Can anyone be in pain but still be happy?”, “How can anyone KEEPSMILING?”

Jim Carrey, one of the most famous Hollywood actors says, “I think that everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer”. Although he has not mentioned the question anywhere we all have the understanding of the kind of questions he is talking of – the existential questions! Questions, a few of which I have asked above.

It usually starts with our attempts to be famous, rich, achiever, etc in all areas of our lives, hoping that these are what will make us happy, fulfilled but sadly, they don’t! And we get so much attached to the things/stuffs we have collected that we are unable to stop even.

No, it’s not even our fault as from the childhood we have been trained to think like that! And not even our parents’, because they too have been trained for the same. And their parents too! And so on, it’s with almost everyone.

They were more keen on the position, or salary offered to any individual. And if it’s not BIG, the person has not done anything.

But how much do those things really matter? Let’s discuss this through my future posts!

Till then, #keepsmiling

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